I was told the disorder is not just about not being able to concentrate or sit down. It’s more about lacking executive control that helps you to focus, stay sitting down, or keeping your mouth shut. Makes you more prone to all sorts of behavior that loses you friends and makes life generally miserable.
During my diagnosis a lot of discussion happened around non-focus things, and possible alternative solutions (including CBT through a school program, which was pretty good now that I think of it)
This was 15-odd years ago. I think that popular culture goes along the axis you say, but the reality is professionals are trying hard at the diagnosis phase I think? But meanwhile this comment means I get the “lol so you can’t concentrate? Not a real illness” BS that plagued people with clinical depression forever if I ever discuss this with certain people.
That being said, the school system is uniquely challenging to all children who have executive control difficulties. Almost nobody’s adult life is as complicated as “trying to fill the demands of 10 different teachers in a week + also grow as a human”.
But at least for me, discussion during diagnosis went beyond just school, because it does affect all parts of life in nasty ways.
I've started saying that I have a neurological issue that interferes with memory and concentration. Having been diagnosed at age 27 also helps. People react much better when they're not being blind, bigoted asshats.
Yep. For the longest time I just thought that I was lazy and disorganized and that all the "brains" everyone said I had were useless because I just made stupid mistakes continually. Everyone knew I had issues, including myself, but because everyone just thought I was forgetful and lazy the only help I got was well-meaning advice from friends and self-help books.
The really fun part: other people have stated in this thread that therapy, absent pharmaceutical assistance, has effectively no value for ADD. I believe it. All of the advice I got and tried, over a decade and a half of real effort, had about as much of an effect as spitting into a hurricane. People's personal organisational tricks are woefully insufficient for ADD, just like with every other real mental health problem in existence.
The parent for example had a gap of 20 years. It just seems strange to be relying on 20 year old notes, rather than what you see before you.
I don't know anything about the subject, and not saying anyone is wrong or anything.
It just seems very strange to me, how many parents didn't bother taking their children to the Dr X number of years ago either because of money, or just because ADHD wasn't a thing, so the parents thought the child was just naughty? Unless you start relying on the 20 year old recollections of random family members, which doesn't seem better in any way better than diagnosing them based on the here and now, which is ultimately what is important. I would far rather we treat people that have ADHD now, rather than had it 20 years ago.
Also I was much more the inattentive type than the hyperactive type.
During my diagnosis I was able to bring a bunch of report cards from my entire school career. That was useful. I empathize with parents who face the dilemma of having a child evaluated, without so much data to go on but with the pressure of not wanting to wait too long in case there is an issue.
I wasn't long on the medication, even in the 1980s there was a backlash against the overprescription and side effects of Ritalin so my mother took me off it. Later during my school years my hyperactivity was a problem, in a different school where the teachers were more strict. I received beatings for things like not sitting still on my chair and for messy handwriting. Medication could probably have helped here and also with my academic performance, though the school and the teachers really should have been more accommodating and understanding around what are rather trivial behavioural differences in the greater scheme of things.
There is big difference between ADHD and bored neurotypical child. It is not just walking instead of sitting, it is jumping on the table running around hitting kids so wild that other kids are scared - and kid is unable to control it. The same kid can be in control and all good and then suddenly loop to out of control mode in second.
There are behavioral issues related to games in my observation, but those are temporal and milder. Mostly that kid act like a jerk right after playing or during playing. Also there is ... not so great culture around gaming streams that makes kids think that being jerk is cool. It however does not cause ADHD like behavior (nor violence it seems to be).