Count me in the exact same situation. I left my last job because my mother in law's house was destroyed by Hurricane Harvey. I wanted to help fix her home, then move back to Chicago, and realign my career where I wanted it to go.
It has been a total disaster, exact same thing you quoted and your statement as well. Will I ever dare try to help someone else to that extent again? Or make an effort to better my career? No. Lesson learned, we're lucky to have jobs at all. I've done what both of you guys did, but for 6 months now. I feel at the limit of my sanity from all the interviews. I have so much to offer, a very solid background, solid references, I'm very well spoken and convincing- but I'm just not good enough or they're trolling the market as you so very well said. I have 10 years of experience, 8 in devops and 2 in webdev. I've started telling employers- tell me your stack and I'll be up to speed before my first day. I'm willing to work for peanuts.
At this point, I realize that I've picked my passion, but chose my career very poorly. My last company told me that the rule that HR had set for hiring was senior devs from the US, entry to mid level exclusively from from India. Going back in time, I'd have nothing to do with software. I would've picked a licensed profession, bonus points for one that offers a union. I'd probably become an electrician or do HVAC and start my own company.
I guess that's what opioids are for, to end ourselves. We are apparently not wanted nor needed in this industry, possibly the economy as a whole. I'm going to keep applying and interviewing, but I've now accepted that I'm going to slip out of the middle class. No way around it. Without my wife's public teacher's health insurance, I'd be in big trouble.
This economy and job market that everyone is talking about is a lie. If you're investment class, sure, things are great. There's an abundance of guys like us walking around. All the news articles saying how great it is had me completely fooled, I thought it was time to make my move. I'm not complaining about any of this, I'm tough as nails and forge on in every situation I've been in life. I can handle it, but I do think there's a good chance nothing comes up here I'm going to be delivering pizzas pretty soon. I do feel sorry for all the other folks who aren't as polished, have my resume, no criminal record, good credit, and without knowing someone at a company, outside of some very good luck, I don't think most of them have a chance in hell.