personal opinion alert: western society seems to preach that the inherent value of men is zero and all value comes from success and accomplishments whereas women are inherently valuable due to their ability to raise children. combine failure to meet the expectations levied upon them by society with a quaker/protestant belief system where all shortcomings boil down to "you didnt work hard enough" plus a culture where showing weakness or seeking help isn't believed to be a masculine trait and it becomes surprising that the discrepancy isn't greater.