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I recently signed up for eharmony. I was under the impression my 'message' to someone was an invite for them to talk back without paying.

That actually makes me feel slightly better. I have much, much higher success rates (and a much lower sample size) of approaching women 'IRL' as opposed to even getting a reply to a message on a dating site.

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The benefit of the IRL approach is that it gives you an immediate opportunity to show positive qualities which don't always carry over very well into a dating website profile -- and you can leverage any physical attraction right off the bat.

See, the thing about dating sites is: women are in demand, men are not. When you're in a superior bargaining position, it's a lot easier to be picky. So women don't give a second thought about discarding profiles for even the most superficial reasons. Interacting in person gives you a chance to cut through that and sell your good qualities without having to pass a bunch of filters first.

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