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Comment by skilesare | Hacker News Reader

Sounds like you need to fall in love. With a girl.

Note: This will solve none of you problems. But it certainly won't be boring either.

Additional note: Whoever convinced you that your life has a track and you need to figure it out did you a serious disservice. It is your life. Loving and serving those dear to you can be an amazing thing. You'll be no help to them if you are miserable.

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I've always been of the opinion that you won't be able to make someone else happy if you can't make yourself happy. Depending on another person for happiness is guaranteed misery. Find your own way to enjoy life, and try to find someone to share it with. Don't make someone else your lifeline to being emotionally stable.

For what it's worth, I didn't make my wife my emotional lifeline. She truly wanted to help me. It could be luck, but it seems more basic than that: people naturally want to help others they care about.

Sounds like you need to fall in love. With a girl.

Or a boy.

Falling in love is best done when things are going well for you. Particularly since the median love interest won't work out.

And "with a girl" seems oddly specific. Assuming he's straight, he's probably not going to fall in love with a guy, and if he's gay, this is terrible advice. Or do you mean with a girl as opposed to a hobby, career, field, etc.?

I wasn't trying to make assumptions of sexuality. This is HN. I was more concerned about him falling in love with his computer. Or a startup. Or minecraft.

If you fall in love only when things are going well for you then that may be a significant reason you believe that the median love interest won't work out.

Seems like forcing yourself to fall in love with a girl/boy may possibly put you in even less of an enjoyable situation. You can't choose to fall in love when it's convenient... it's an organic process.

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