His Body Was Behind the Wheel for a Week Before It Was Discovered
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- The deceased was a software developer (his last job was senior director of development at Dell) who couldn't find work in his 50s and 60s and was living on food stamps at the time of his death. [0]
- He changed his name late in life because it was forever connected via online search results to an incident of disorderly conduct that made the news. [1]
- He bought a vial of poison from the dark web.
- His body, at the driver seat of his car, was ignored for a week in Manhattan because people assumed he was just a napping Uber driver.
- Despite his car being tracked by all the city's surveillance cameras and license plate readers -- including the geo-coordinates of his last known phone call -- the NYPD were unable to locate him.
- The NYPD initially ignored the missing person report because it was faxed instead of emailed.
[0] https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/brutal-job-search-reality-...
[1] https://www.cbsnews.com/news/geoffrey-weglarz-conn-man-threw...
Living alone with billions in the bank is still a lonely existence when the rest of your world has forgotten about you.
> If you are having thoughts of suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 (TALK) or go to SpeakingOfSuicide.com/resources for a list of additional resources.
Set up automatic withdrawal to a 401(k)/IRA for whatever percentage you can afford next month (say 3%), then just increase it by 0.5% per month until you get to your goal. The slow progression will give you time to adjust your hedonic treadmill down in line with your increased savings.
Or deceptively the address closest to those co-ordinates https://splinternews.com/why-do-people-keep-coming-to-this-c...
I'd say this article is less about a suicide than about NYC... In that case there are many NYT articles I've read over the years that fit this genre: the anonymity of being in a big city.
Two articles that come to mind (sorry no links) that I've read in the past year or two: one article about how New Yorkers who die and family cannot be reached end up in the city cemetery. Another interesting article about an 80s murder cold case and retracing the victims life 3 decades later. Both really good journalism.
He was not a software developer. I also I have long believed skills > management on the longer run.
After ~five years. We should be able to change jobs occasionally and not have to hold on to our current one for dear life. Sounds like once you hit fifty you'll never be hired again, so must do anything to avoid a layoff.
The problem is that people start a career as a J2EE programmer in their 20s and expect to coast and never update/learn new skills. This will serve you fine for a decade or two, but if you're in your mid 40s and you're only comfortable with technology from the late 90s, your job prospects will be limited.
In order to have a long career in tech, you need to constantly be learning new technologies, frameworks, and languages. If you don't, you can coast for a while, but don't act all surprised at 50 when you get laid off and can't find any work. Would you honestly expect to be able to find work as a VAX/VMS engineer now if that was what you started working with right out of college and never learned UNIX, Linux, or Wintel?
Ageism isn't the only problem though, just as big is that no one will allow you to learn on the job. With the explosion of tech stacks it should be a requirement, but the opposite is true. Tech interviews under the gun are another.
But then there's all the other times when they look at you as if you were a speaking monkey...
Come to any of a dozen cities that have a decent tech representation and you won't need a year to get an offer. And I'm not talking about SF or NY, you can go to places like Denver, Salt Lake City, Austin, or Boise.
But on the other hand, I saw all these people whose only skills were COBOL and RPG3, and even back then those technologies were obsolete. They'd been getting large salaries from IBM primarily on the basis of their domain knowledge, and when IBM stopped caring about those lines, the knowledge became worthless.
Seeing what this did to people that I had been working with, and friendly with, really made a big impression on me. I promised I wouldn't let myself get into that same technical debt - but these day's that's easier said than done.
They found Perl a challenge at first :-)
This is a _HUGE_ loss to a company when a company loses someone with domain knowledge. Putting people into the "Are they good at skill X? Where X is the specific thing their title says they do." box and then hiring and firing based solely upon X is foolish to the extreme. If someone is mediocre at X but understands the business domain that they are working in they are worth the same as someone who is highly talented at X but doesn't know the domain. And while people can "learn the domain" most people don't actually want to. They'll learn it until they have passing knowledge but won't actually ever take the time to really understand it.
One of the pains in staying up to date in tech is that learning Perl then java then javascript then python and whatever comes next and the corresponding frameworks seems like a big hamster wheel. You pretty much are doing the same thing you're just learning new ways to do it -not necessarily better.
It seems like you're writing the same term paper over and over again. After a while, it loses its luster.
If I could do it again I would choose a career where gaining knowledge adds to your mastery. In info. tech, it's a lateral move and you have to keep learning or you sink.
I've also got 25+ years of contacts. I have to think that talented older developers who struggle with employment must have been antisocial in their careers. I cringed when the guy in TFA apparently threw a sandwich at a fast food worker - maybe there are some deeper personality issues at play besides just being old. It's no less sad, of course.
Re the article, I suspect a baseline anger built up over being unemployed so long. That can lead to small injustices being blown out of proportion. Similar has happened to me in different areas over the years so can relate.
When you find clients by word of mouth they rarely even ask for your CV - it's just "can you do this?".
Once I did well with the first generic question, do not filter in application code, do it in database. (Thought that was 10x more important than any library question.) Next question how to access a field with F(). Needed to look at stack overflow, did within a few mins. No offer.
Also, they will ask questions across multiple fields which can't all be studied for. One Java Spring shop asked exclusively database questions after I spent weeks brushing up on Java Spring. Could only answer 90% of the questions, not bad considering. Even had a friend on the inside. No offer.
Think about all the pass/fail exams at University with two surprise questions from any technical field. Oh yeah, doesn't exist because it would be absurd.
It's endemic, bad interviews and coderpad.io. If you've got a network you can skip most of it, perhaps why many have not realized how bad it is from the outside.
The one thing he always did was disqualify any candidate that could not answer the basic questions about our in-house stack. If you did not know at least the basics, my boss moved on to the next candidate.
Fair or unfair it did not matter. He had enough experience to know that it takes time for people to learn a new framework and language plus our in-house procedures. It was always more productive to grab someone with experience.
I suspect most employers think the same way.
At one time, employers would take a chance and time to bring someone up to speed since it was harder to find the right person. The developer pool has expanded so much that now it's easier to find someone with experience.
But now I actually like to play with my kid and travel when I'm not at work, and it's painfully obvious when people say "hey try a bit of Rust or Go or whatever" they don't mean on work hours.
This is a bit problematic, too, because I use Node all day long and I suspect it will not be a technology with a long future.
It's part of a software engineer's job to evaluate technologies and no one so far has chided me for doing so. Only the most cynically bad kind of manager would try, and some of those can be convinced otherwise when the utility explained.
You hit the nail on the head here.
You can go a little less if you own your home and pay it off.
As it stands, if I wanted to rent my own apartment, 50% of my monthly income would be gone right there. That's not including utilities, internet, or food, and that's not a "nice" place - it's just what you can find. With those other expenses factored in, I'd be looking at roughly another 15% gone on top of that.
So as it is, just to keep a roof over my head, and keep myself fed and minimally entertained, it would cost 65% of my monthly income. I don't drive, but my transit pass is another almost 5%, so that brings it up to 70%; if I did drive it'd be another 10-15% on top of that for fuel and maintenance.
So somehow 30% of my income needs to be spread out for ALL of life (clothing, surprise bills, travel for visiting family, actually doing things you enjoy, etc.). On top of that, now there's saving for my retirement; you say 20-25% should go into savings. Being conservative and using the 20% figure, that leaves 10% of my monthly income to live off of. This also doesn't take into account any sort of savings for a mortgage or car, "Rainy-day Fund", or even allow for the remote possibility of ever traveling in your life.
It isn't probably. It's most certainly.
However, your scenario is ideal but not possible for many. Financial literacy and responsibility goes a long way in being able to live without working (one day).
Then you're looking in the wrong town or at the wrong job-offers. Conventional wisdom has it that you should spend at most 25% of monthly net income on housing.
Unfortunately for the majority of people in this city (or even province in general, BC is expensive), housing is often >50% of income. A one bedroom apartment where I live goes for about $800-1200 on average right now (and are in extremely short supply), and minimum wage is $10.50. There are not a lot of high paying jobs here either; a large number of people are forced to work multiple jobs.
Our entire province is struggling with a housing crisis right now. Things are complicated unfortunately and conventional wisdom doesn't always match up with reality.
When there is such a mismatch between housing costs and salary offers, look somewhere else. "It's not worthwhile to work here." is the information conveyed by those housing prices; those other people who you say are pulling crazy stunts to make the ends meet, are ignorant of that information at their own peril.
We mostly live well above our needs and can save much more.
It doesn't matter how old you are. If you have 25x yearly expenses, then you can retire and live off of investment returns. This assumes market trends don't deviate materially from past hundred years of historical data.
The ACA has improved the situation signficantly for people who qualify for ACA subsidies, but the subsidy cliff is really uncomfortable for people trying to make long term financial plans.
In summary, 25x your yearly expenses when you’re 30 is no where near 25x your yearly expenses when you’re 50, even with zero lifestyle inflation.
I'm sure many people don't want to do that, but it's not all that hard if you're a developer making an above average salary elsewhere.
Counter example: I lead a software team doing new product development for a multi billion company NOT in the valley. Plenty of my engineering coworkers are grandparents. They are very much comfortably employed.
My boss is 50ish, young at heart and a brilliant software architect. He still gets actively recruited and has no end of companies approaching him for contracting gigs outside of work.
Find a niche and stay effective. You'll probably be employable forever.
Well, one man's established company and non-hipster framework is another man's cave and commodore 64.
I've personally experienced a glaring cultural and technical difference between work environments in the SF/Seattle areas and ones in other technology hotspots - even within the same company.
I'd be interested to hear about these if you had the time.
One of the most important words in the OP's sentence is 'mediocre.' Of course great engineers will be in demand, regardless of age. But the big push towards CS education today is going to bear fruit in 10 years, at which point, wages and opportunities for older, less talented workers will decline.
I'm seeing this already among my older peer group. Even in a what is seen to be a tight job market, they are having to interview much, much more often to get even one offer.
Software engineers are in this really sweet spot. They are a scarce high-skill asset and if you aren't pulling in above industry average wages you should be hopping to the next job that will pay you more.
(I couldn't bring up the courage to click reply with just a quippy one liner, so let me assure you that I do actually think this is the truth behind things; plain and simple expectation mismatch. Companies want the best skills at the lowest prices. Candidates want the best offer they think can manage. Incentives will always put these actors to opposite ends of the spectrum.)
Edit: I would at least like to understand the downvotes, since I say the above _as an engineer_ who knows I'll run up against companies saying they have a shortage while I'm banging on the door. (In fact that has literally happened, rejection the same week as an article from a firm that posted a "shortage" article)
For example, one candidate interviewed for an engineering position that involved a lot of writing SQL/data wrangling. He listed machine learning on his resume and got interviewed by one of our researchers who lives and breaths ML and was torn apart. I didn't care that he didn't know how to do ML, even it if was listed on his resume, I was confident the candidate could do the job I needed him to. The candidate got the veto.
I'm sure other companies pull the same crap. Interviewing is just all-around awful.
One way I like candidates to get around this issue is to separate skills into categories like (for example) "very familiar with", "comfortable with", and "experience with". It's refreshing to see honest evaluations of skill levels, rather than people who say they know C/C++ but aren't capable of coding up a basic class in C++.
I do think this is another topic that make interviewing difficult. For example, I know Javascript pretty well, I've worked with it for years. However, I haven't done modern front-end development with it in a long time, thus I don't know Vue/Angular/React or even Node. But I have created browser plugins in pure JS.
Some people would argue that I shouldn't list Javascript as a skill because I don't know the popular core libraries it's used with, and other people would have no problem with listing it. The problem is interviewees have no idea what kind of person they are going to run into.
I do appreciate when people rank their skills, but that also takes up pretty valuable real-estate on a resume. I personally leave them off of my "list" of skills, but call them out on projects I've worked on the past. For example, I don't list C as a skill, but I do mention working on embedded devices with C for previous jobs.
The truth of the matter is there's an enormous influx of new developers stateside thanks to the media frenzy around developer shortages. The pinnacle of this hype even reached the White House, with Obama urging young people to enter the field.
We have plenty of developers here, companies just don't want to pay them more. And if you can't find them here there is an even larger pool of developers available abroad. Companies have perpetuated this myth of "not enough developers" and the nation bought it hook line and sinker.
Now that I'm pushing 50, it's about 10%.
I blame a number of things:
* The biggest one is salary. I'm just not willing to work for what I worked for when I was 40.
* I haven't kept up with the latest technology as much as I should have.
* I'm a bit more risk averse. For instance, when I was 35, I moved to another state for a job.
But a lot of it is just plain ageism. I did an interview last Friday, and when I walked in, the company was full of twenty-somethings. I saw the look on the recruiter's face, when he did the math and realized I was way older than he'd assumed. He just looked horrified.
I've gotten to a position where I'm doing just part-time now, ultimately looking toward early retirement (or, working on whatever I want).
I've spent half of my life programming and I know that this is my most valuable skill where I can make 10k+/month, but I don't feel any excitement about 90% of the stuff anymore so it's hard to continue. My current plan is to increase my passive income and trading. I love programming, but I'm feeling burned out (I'm doing professional software dev for 3 years now and currently run an agency).
I can save up 2k€/month because I want to work part-time (1-2 weeks a month) and will only make 6.5k€/month pre-tax (3.5k€ after taxes). Unfortunately we have heavy taxing here in Germany (42% income tax).
I need to invest a million to make 70k€/year pre-tax (premise: 7% ROI).
This doesn't sound remotely possible - saving up 25-30k€/year is not going to cut it for significant gains in the markets. I can increase my income by working full-time, but if I know that I have to do it for many years I get demotivated.
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Maybe it's a mistake that I'm located in Germany, the taxing makes it impossible for me to save up enough money although I'm in the top 10-20% of incomes.
Due to progressive taxing, going from 100k€ to 120k€/year increases my net income from 55k€ (this is nearly half of the 100k) to 64k€. It feels like that's a bit too much because people making a million also pay 42% income tax (most of them pay 25% because capital gains are taxed differently). Having money is rewarded more than working, so I'm getting demotivated a bit by knowing that most of the money I make will be eaten by progressive taxes, anyways.
edit: There's a way to pay around 20-25% of taxes - having a family where one person works with two kids (two working parents is not encouraged, however - very subtle nudging). It's like we've ingrained our values into our tax system. For me as a 20y/o, this doesn't help and I'm not gonna marry somebody to save some taxes.
It's always Keynes vs. Friedman (and a mix of both), but I don't like this de-regulated state. We already have big problems with inequality.
What do you think about this?
Increasing CGT will kill off small business scene effectively, as it's very often one-two small owners with very modest compensation via the dividend.
Find a gig which is not too stressful (generally 40 hours/week). Likely candidates are in less sexy industries that won't make the HN front page. Save all you can, and enjoy your life outside of work. If you like programming and technology, even more "boring" jobs will often enough provide challenge to keep things interesting. If not, you can dabble outside of work without burning out if you're only putting in 40/week.
EDIT: typo
I think I'll continue to work like you've described for half a year and save up my whole income and invest it properly. I already have a passive income of 1.5-1.9k€/month pre-tax, I'll invest the 20-30k€ that I'll save up in the next months to get to 3.5-5k€/month of passive income. It's not 10k/month, but I feel like I'm doing myself a disservice if I "enjoy my life outside work".
Do you have the fear of regretting a 9-to-5 life? I've always wanted to be free so a 40h-week doing something I don't really enjoy sounds like a nightmare to me.
I guess 2019 will be the year of the next crash (Italy, college crisis, fiscal crisis, DAX is falling, Brexit, Trump policies that basically just deregulate and only bring short-term gains but ultimately harm the society long-term, real estate bubble here in Germany). Unfortunately, most of my passive income is coupled with consumer spending. I guess it will stop working when I need it most and investing another 20-30k€ won't bring me far (I'll try to invest when the market is low, nevertheless). Hope I'm wrong with my shallow market analysis.
Hope it works out for all of you, too!
edit: I hate crash predictions as the next guy because they're almost always wrong. But lately I'm having a hard time ignoring the signs.
Sure he applied to hundreds of jobs, but what was the range of things he applied to? Not being able to find a job making / doing what you used to is far different from actually being unemployable.
Right now, my earning are in the top 5% of my specialization. Realistically, I'm probably overpaid by about 25%.
I'm currently employed and I've gone on a bunch of interviews. I get hit with two things:
1) I haven't found a single employer who will even come close to what I currently make. I will take a pay cut of at least 10-15%, no matter where I go.
2) A lot of employers want me to take an even bigger hit. Which I'm OK with! But then they get suspicious, wondering "what if we hire him and he just leaves as soon as he finds someone that pays better?"
I've actually considered lying about how much I make, but that seems a bit stupid. As I see it, they're getting me at a discount, as they see it, I'm a liability.
It's a p.i.t.a.
I see this with data teams where older developers can be less productive than people who are much younger that have a few years experience working in the Hadoop ecosystem. There is no reason to pay people 50-100% more if they aren’t nearly that much more productive
Unix is well over 20 years old, so is Ethernet, TCP, GCC, and an endless plethora of technologies that stand tall behind the thin curtain of a Node.js installation.
Full-stack nowadays means "I know how to write a Dockerfile and deploy it", but a senior dev might actually understand the full stack. This is of course assuming they have 20 years of experience, not one year of experience * 20.
More interesting, I found, was on 3 separate occasions today when speaking with some tech vendors, they all mentioned "file descriptors". "When installing, you gotta make sure you up your default file descriptors - system defaults won't work". A MySQL tuning guy said "almost no one ever has enough, and almost no one knows about these - you need 60000 minimum, but distros usually default to 1024". And I nodded, because I've hit that issue many times in the last 20+ years, and now recognize symptoms and that's now in my diagnostic bag.
"Senior dev" seems to mean 3+ years of work, and "full stack" seems to mean they know "npm install" and have built create-react-app samples. (I'm tired and cynical, I know).
There were companies that could keep you employed all your working career those companies are on their way to extinction. You need to plan for your next job.
Being always ready to jump, in many ways, sucks. But it's what we've got.
20 years of saving 50%+ of your take-home, and a well diversified portfolio (read: not 100% US equities), and you most likely never need to work another day in your life if you don't want to, even if you never get a stock payday.
I'm still at least moderately technical. a couple of years ago went to switch jobs and got 4 offers. I'm 50+ in Seattle, so there is some good tech going on here. I'm not the ceo, I'm not a distinguished engineer, but I can do some stuff.
Don't give up - find something technical. Avoid being just a a manager. It's easy to fall into that trap of no tech because it happens to a lot of us, that technical fire runs out after a while.
I’ve come to firmly believe that the fastest way to solving a problem is having solved it before.
At least in Japan I believe the offers to be fairly competetive as well (top 30% ish).
I lived in the south SF Bay area for 20 years, and left 15 years ago. The culture was pretty insular then, but boy, that comment just drives how how much it worse it has gotten.
The thought that everybody needs to create a startup, much less a profitable one, seems laughable. It is also a surer way to economic loss than toughing it out as a worker bee.
I'm in my mid 50s and still happily employed as a drone. Every opportunity to move "up" into management I've rejected. I'm experienced, work well with others, and work hard; my career is doing fine and feel no job insecurity. There are plenty of other people at work who are as old or older than me who are highly respected. If you work some place where age is a disqualifier, it is a red flag.
As for startups, I'd suggest buying a lottery ticket - it has similar odds but involves much less work.
An instinctive retort to this would be "it doesn't matter, I produce value", but what one must understand is, value often doesn't matter, at all. As they say, perception is reality.
Cut your costs, pay down debt, save what's left over. All money flows to the top, and at an increasing rate.
It's funny how often I have occasion to say this on HN: I'm a 57 year-old working software engineer. I've never been out of work for a significant time since I started doing this professionally in the late 80's. If you want to keep working as an engineer there is plenty of demand. You simply have to stay interested enough to know the things people are looking for. If you have an active and recent resume of relevant work, you think someone is going to turn you down because of some gray hair? I'm sure it happens but I believe it is the exception, not the rule.
There are lots of ways to flame out in your 50's. Remaining engaged and actively interested in pursuing your trade is not one of them.
Oh my. This is doubly accurate since if you're working in software, your job is most likely to unemploy other people.
The key difference here could be that these were highly skilled, educated people and worth keeping on.
https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/the-jobs-...
The best indicator of low obesity prevalence seems to be if the job depends on a persons appearance and attire.
That's probably just due to selection, though - if a job depends on appearance and attire, people not looking good enough won't get hired for it.
As difficult as programming feels right now, it is an absolute cakewalk to pursuing, building, funding, running a startup of any kind--even self-driven freelance.
The truth of the matter is that your skill with language X will get you pretty far, at least until X is no longer relevant. But the experience you would gain through operating your own group are the skills that really matter. Those are the skills that will get the ultimate big bucks and guarantee future opportunity.
Would YOU hire YOU? (Edit, maybe people think I am being condescending with that question, I'm not--it's an existential question I suggest to be asked)
Finally, he bought a dry cleaners franchise and that's what he's doing now.
Lesson learned, sometimes you have to move on.
My best advice is to make yourself indispensable to a company and hope the company will stick around. Or create your own company that you can control.
A mediocre mid-20s developer is given a lot of chances, and not much is expected of the developer.
Once you're mid-career, the expectation is that you'll take some kind of a leadership role: People management, high-level architecture, or direct mentorship. Otherwise, if you're mediocre, you need to target roles where you're given chances. (Basically, a consultant.)
What's also important is staying current, which becomes so much harder once you have kids, a house, and your hobbies don't involve staying up all night on a side project. I'm trying to use vacation time for this, but family obligations tend to soak up my vacation time like a dry sponge.
https://www.eff.org/pages/automated-license-plate-readers-al...
Basically they say it's not their fault, but they are obligated to check it out if someone calls.
You get number plate recognition, an automatic allowance of an hour or two for a supermarket, and an automatic fine to the address of the car's registered keeper. Here's one of many: https://www.parkingprotection.co.uk/ANPR.html
There's been more than a few mistakes, or not getting the correct time allowance, and problems getting false claims lifted.
> Traffic officers who write parking tickets most likely passed by him at least twice, on days that his car was parked illegally. Officers looking for violators on street-cleaning days — on East 12th Street, those days were Tuesday and Friday — routinely ignore vehicles when the driver is sitting inside. Mr. Weglarz’s vehicle received no tickets on the Tuesday or Friday when it was parked illegally, suggesting an officer might have seen him and assumed he was just another idle driver.
[0] https://static01.nyt.com/images/2018/10/02/nyregion/00body2/...
People now buy packages where you pay annually and the tinting people will remove your tint, inspect your car, and then re-tint the car on the same day!
[0]http://thevillager.com/2018/09/06/end-of-the-road-on-e-12th-...
I don't mean to be callous but as he was spending down his 401k why didn't he get a lower level job somewhere? A lot of this story seems to be about an older man in tech that was too prideful to get any job he could get until he found work at the caste level he was accustomed to in the past.
You could leave that stuff off, but then you also are lying on the application and will be expected to explain the lack of job history.
It's easily explained by the truth: "I'm changing careers", "The job market is tough", "I've always loved acting", etc...
Heck, before I got married I thought it would be fun to be a waiter at my favorite restaurant a couple nights a week. Meet people, work on my people skills, good food, occupy some time without getting myself into trouble...
And did that actually happen? Or did you just think it.
Here is the thing: This sort of thing doesn't help much. I knew a dude that was told to his face, multiple times, that they didn't think he'd be happy making the money the place was offering and that they thought he'd be unhappy in a low position. The result was not getting a job.
It didn't matter what he said. He simply needed a job. The money didn't matter so much because him and his wife downsized and owned a house and car, but he still needed a little income. He really didn't want the stress of management.
No job. It doesn't matter what the truth is if it doesn't get past the filters of the person hiring.
And that is if you even get to the interview portion where you can explain that sort of thing. Online applications for low-paying jobs are pretty basic. (of course, so were the paper ones they were replacing).
What else are you going to put down for job history other than your job history? If you are doing a job that either requires a degree or expertise, it doesn't matter if you put down your salary or why you want the job. I knew a dude that wanted a simple job. His wife and him had downsized their house, had no car/house payment, and a basic, stress-free job was enough.
He was told by a few companies just didn't think he'd be happy at the wages they were paying and refused to hire him. This was despite explaining that he just wanted to do a job without the stress and go home. This was despite explaining he didn't need as much money now as his needs were less. It did not matter.
Now, eventually he got a job or two. One he couldn't stay at, since the gas station had no system in place for actual breaks, he wasn't allowed to eat at the register around customers, and he was diabetic and needed regular snacks. Another eventually worked out for a while.
Is this really lying? And I guess more importantly is that even ethically wrong?
I think it's one thing to say you did things that you didn't do but it's another to not list everything that you have done.
I'll fully admit that I do this. I had a job I was fired from after 3 months after failing their "trial period" and another that I quit after a couple months. I leave both off my resume because it doesn't add anything.
But really, if you are at a balance of zero, why wouldn’t you fake a resume. What do you have to lose?
Unfortunately, in most cases killing yourself doesn’t actually help anyone, and now they have your death to deal with as well (funerals are a fun expense if you’re already struggling to pay the bills).
Filling out a form that asks for the names of your last three employers with information that is not that of your last three employers is lying.
Whether you will get caught is another matter.
It makes sense from the company's perspective. Better for them to have a worker who will be a little stressed by the job, who isn't doing it as a low-stress "coast", and, most importantly, who really needs the money.
Would you go back and be an intern now if you were qualified for and only one good interview away from a top job?
I would imagine if you really keep up and keep your skills fresh, and you are a good engineer, you can probably find a job maintaining some crap legacy software that no one wants to touch. It's not glamorous, but it will still pay the rent.
* If a person is suspected as missing in an area
* and family or other business associates
* file a missing persons report (and they SHOULD be able to do so)
* including contact details like a cell phone
If there isn't a response, all of the above should be glanced at by a judge to double check everything is in order and it isn't an attempt at violating someone's right to privacy. Who will thus approve a warrant for the local wireless data providers / service providers for their mobile to obtain it's present point of connection and address. Further that if it isn't within range at the time of checking, to get a history to see if it was since the last known / current known.
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
http://hospicepatients.org/five-regrets-of-the-dying-bronnie...
And maybe, on the other hand, it will serve as a cautionary tale to people who might have embarked on a path that led this way. If it changes the saving habits of a handful of engineers early in their career, I'd say it was more than worth it even if it led to a copycat or two.
You don't appear to know anything about suicidality. Yet you've made a firm, judgemental statement about it.
> If it changes the saving habits of a handful of engineers early in their career,
You don't have to write about suicide to do that.
We have a variety of research.
We have testimony from survivors who tells us that they were influenced by reports that include details of method, location, speculated reasons why the person killed themself, or details of the affect on friends and relatives.
We can see in the months and years after a particular story is released how that influences deaths by suicide. Asphyixiation with helium became a lot more common in the UK after Michael Portillo made a tv programme about painless ways of capital punishment. Death by overdosing increases after tv shows depict a character dying by that method.
> It's not a sensationalizing piece
It doesn't have to be.
I'm pleased the UK has the laws we do.
That said, what's to stop a situation like that from arising as autonomous vehicles become more sophisticated?
It looks like this fellow was intelligent, talented, good-looking tbh, and yet ended up broke somehow. It's strangely serendipitous to come upon an article like this at this particular point in my life. Seeing this happen to someone else certainly doesn't lift my spirits.
Also, there are plenty of programs to help people who need it. Might be worth posting about your situation over on /r/personalfinance for a little personalized advice.
People shouldn't be using this as a warning-story, this guy had bigger issues than unemployment.
Likewise, I think in this case, the impact of financial distress shouldn’t be discounted. He had been for years unhappy about being unemployed and poor. And he ended up killing himself just hours after the bank declined to cash the check he’d gotten from selling his possessions.
I don’t see the way he texted his sister to be particularly abnormal, especially if he had a dramatic personality in life (being an aspiring actor and all). What is the normal way for someone to act after just having drank poison?
I suppose you're right. I just don't think young people (in this thread) need to look at him and worry for their future.
"Two people are lost in the desert with only one water bottle. There is not enough water for both people to reach civilization. Who gets the water, or do they share it (and both die)? .... Rabbi Akiva, whose opinion is the accepted one, declared that the owner of the water is the one who should drink the water. " Because it is my duty to live.
There's a short story in that, Mary Celeste 2.0
This just comes across as sensationalist shock-value story time to me. I would really like to see these go away in "news". This constitutes an anecdote, not news.