The typical response is that infrastructure will eventually address congestion concerns...meanwhile BART still has not fulfilled the vision that was laid out in 60s. How long are people supposed to wait?
Having to commute from the outskirts isn't nearly so bad if the infrastructure supports it, but you have to build transit for where your city will be in ten years, not where it is now, and we're barely even doing the latter in Austin.
This is why I dislike “Steelmanning” arguments since nobody spends the time to research the opposition and just better articulates strawmen.
I’m not a member of the hyper logical brain geniuses society that eats this stuff up, but if you want to zero in on stuff YIMBYs are weak on consider ableism, school crowding and (If applicable to a region) water availability.
Long term planning that is set in stone would solve this problem, but doubt it's politically feasible in many places.
An underappreciated source of the bay area's problems is that its enormous immigrant population cannot vote for 10+ years after they arrive, so the people who didn't want it to change have all the political power.