Although much as it pains me, I think that is a lost cause. And it was lost through attrition - devs kept throwing non-native (often, JS-based) apps at users, and users got conditioned to each app having its own look, much like websites.
Fortunately, it does seem like these platforms are beginning to converge on a set of common UI patterns, e.g. Android adopting the tab bar, and iOS apps beginning to adopt Android's horizontal-paging navigation. The colors, iconography, and typography shifting can disorient somewhat, but I'd argue it's the navigation model that's most disruptive when using different apps.