Whenever someone uses that phrase, I now tend to picture this beautiful monologue by Will Oldham in the movie "A Ghost Story": https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x6bs2o5
It's long and depressing (what do you expect for a downer monologue at a party?) but I think worth you while to watch, so that you too can have a comparison point for the future.
I absolutely loved that movie. It was so much more than I expected that I couldn't stop watching it.