I don't think its against site rules to state personal experiences, actually it's the basis of healthy debate.
If I said something along the lines of "all female engineers" without the context I provided; i.e its most of the female engineers I personally work with, then yeah I could see how that would be construed as virtue signalling. I assure you that's not my intention, and apologies if it comes across that way.
In any case, no need to apologise - from your other comments I don't think we're on diametrically opposed sides in this particular political tussle. Go in peace.
Some of it is due to a fashion though. At some point the bias towards what you say end would look as quaint as the bias against women in the 50s or so.
People will get to view at the behavior you describe in the same way people looked at hippies after their fashion was gone...