If the people putting the time/money into producing the content don't make it available to you, then that's their choice. They're still putting a value on it, so if you obtain the content without providing them that value, then it's stealing. The book you mention is a perfect example. I can't get it either. So I just don't pay for it and spend my money somewhere else instead. Your "steal" should just be steal (no quotes). It's black or white.

Now I don't think it's some huge deal, I'm just saying it's still stealing, either way you look at it.