Most people handle the disappointing but universal discovery that not all childhood beliefs reflect reality without taking up rabid misogyny.
I've read many posts on /r/braincels and didn't see any misogyny. Just lots of depressed men who will vehemently reject any notion that they can improve their situation. From what I observed their hatred was either self directed or used to attack straw men caricatures of people trying to offer advice. They seem to be just depressed, frustrated people who cannot get into relationships and hang out and lick their wounds with juvenile defense mechanisms.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Braincels/comments/9gq4q8/average_2...
The situation is only going to become more divisive if we don’t find a way to come together and work out differences. Especially with those we don’t like.
We’d never tell someone “Don’t worry about acquiring skills. A job will be given thanks to your charming personality.” But we’re perfectly fine telling teenagers this about love. It’s no wonder they rebel.
Maybe incels have trouble _because_ they are raging misogynists?
Consider that your phrasing could also be called victim blaming, depending on how you classify those in question. Are people with genetic deformities allowed to feel upset that they are less likely to find love?
It’s not a healthy way to deal with the situation, since it will only push people deeper into their entrenched communities, rallying those you label. After all, if the world thinks you’re a villain, why not act like one?
There's nothing wrong with being bad or awkward at romantic and sexual interactions. It's the people who already have a lot of issues that become misogynists as a result of romantic failure (or romantically fail because they were already misogynists).