One thing is, I don't get its layout, is it possible to create a vertical/horizontal split like what (shift+)cmd+d does in iTerm 2?
Ctrl-Shift-L goes through all enabled layouts. A layout specifies how the "windows" are arranged. Simple splits are available among others. I like the stacked layout: window 1 fills the full height on the left half of the screen, all other windows are stacked on the right half.
There does not seem to be a way to control the borders within the layout with the mouse; e.g. temporarily resize window 1 in the example above to be 80% of the width. That's something I sometimes miss. It's configurable, of course, but not ad hoc.
I'm using macOS and unfortunately not familiar with how I'd do that, but I'm sure it would be easy with something like i3wm on linux (which I still miss after moving away from linux 3 years ago :/), but I don't know what I could use in macOS.
Maybe I could find some third-party solution just to show/hide a particular application. I think if I had that + if I could figure out tabbing/tiling behaviour of Kitty, I would switch to it. Those two things are the main things that I need from iterm.