Clearly "desirable metro area" is the problem. Some would even call it a self-contradiction.
The increased salary of an expensive area does not normally compensate for the increased costs. It might if you are content with a studio apartment and you put most of your income into a retirement fund that you will spend only after you leave the area. You're in deep trouble if housing is a significant need for you.
It's like this: salary goes up 50%, and expenses go up 200%, so you lose.
70k, with just a single income, is perfectly fine if you live somewhere cheap. You can easily own a home and raise a family with that kind of money. I know people who manage that on far less.