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Men are sexually harassed frequently but we don't hear about it often because there is a lot of shame in speaking about it... since you're admitting to being lower power/status.

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I'm not sure why you're being downvoted. I've had grown women, strangers, inappropriately grab my butt in public or otherwise inappropriately touch me. Sexual harassment is inappropriate, full stop. There's no gender based excuse that allows it or makes it acceptable.

There is a pretty big contingent of people out there who fully believe the "men can't be raped" type stuff.

I had a 100-year old neighbor that grabbed my butt, then she laughed like a teenager. It was shocking, but only because no one would associate centennials with that kind of behavior; otherwise it's a super funny story to tell at parties.

My brother and his girlfriend both worked at the same retirement home when they were in high school. They both were harassed extensively and on a daily basis. And yes, they were both minors at the time. Your experience is exactly what I've come to expect of centennials :)

I've had similar experiences. I had an elderly 90+ year old woman grab my crotch in a bar, multiple times when I was in my mid-20s. Around that time of my life, I had multiple other women (mostly 45+ years old) aggressively grab my ass or touch me unsolicited in bars. One (who was married, mind you) tried to pull me into her vehicle as I was leaving a bar.

I never reciprocated or led them on. The most I can say is that I was affable and would indulge anyone who wanted to talk. I will admit that I never really felt threatened though, so I think that still makes the situation different than women experience.

First Nations woman grabbed my butt in East Vancouver when I was out running.

I don't know the statistics on sexual harassment, but there are many studies suggesting domestic violence is dramatically underreported in men so it's very possible.

https://web.archive.org/web/20090104074211/http://www.phac-a...

Honestly, I think it's because men internalize these kinds of things differently than women.

I wish someone more knowledgable in the topic area could say something backed by real data, instead of my uneducated opinion.

Women internalized them differently as well, back when they were taught that was "just the way things are", "not a big deal", and to "suck it up".

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