So do you think this holds true forever? Surely it can be done in a respectful way. Whats the harm in holding up a sign saying "Hey _why, if you ever decide you want to tell your story, we would love to hear it." No one is suggesting hiring a private investigator or some other intrusive method. Notice the wording of the question: "...please ask him..."
Yes, I believe so. I think that if _why ever decides to come out of hiding it should be entirely on his terms and up to him when where and how he does it.
"I think that if _why ever decides to come out of hiding it should be entirely on his terms and up to him when where and how he does it."
Nothing I've said negates that. He's free to accept or reject the offer/request.