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After thinking more on this I think that something is missing, the article suggest to make a list with bad things about your partner but this will not help if you are analyzing yourself, trying to find your own mistakes and improving yourself. Putting all the blame on the other may not be the correct thing in some cases.

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I think it's less about blame and more about objective recognition that the relationship and/or person was not as perfect as we'd like to think when we're going through heartbreak. There's a quote from Bojack Horseman, "When you look at someone through rose colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags." I think this suggestion is more about being honest about the negatives that one looked past, even if one was content with the tradeoff.

Yes, I understand that but it seems incomplete, is correct thing to do but it may not be the only thing to do IMO.

But I agree that the point discussed is an important/significant one.

It's a method to stop loving someone not a metod to holistically advance yourself to next level of conciousness. You can do that after you stop being in love with a person you shouldn't be in love with anymore.

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