I’m close with someone who actively keeps her address from public records to keep an old stalker from finding her.

The psychological effect of having someone treat you like an object, repeatedly hunt you down after moves, and gaslight you/landlords/cops into believing it’s not happening is harmful as it is—let alone the not-so-unlikely chance that someone with this high degree of intelligence and mental health issues will physically hurt you if they find you.

There’s not much you can do besides a paper restraining order. By the time the cops come it’s too late.

This possibility is a very real part of many people’s lives, but maybe less talked about with men like me because statistically female victims are more common.