Netflix kernel engineer here.. We use FreeBSD's async sendfile() and not aio, so it would be a bit harder for us to fix open latency, since we're not using aio.
I had not thought about open latency being an issue, that's fascinating. Looking at one of our busy 100G servers w/NVME storage, I see an openat syscall latency of no more than 8ms sampling over a few minute period, with most everything being below 65us. However, the workload is probably different than yours (more longer lived connections, fewer but larger files, fewer opens in general). Eg, we probably don't have nearly the "long tail" issue you do..