Doing distributed joins correctly requires an architectural/technical capability that most distributed database engines don't have: decentralized parallel orchestration. If you have this, you can do joins even with very high data volumes efficiently given good parallel scheduling algorithms. Most databases are designed such that there is a single point of control that declaratively schedules all data flows required to execute the query; this scales poorly for operations like joins, never mind recursive joins, which is why you don't see it.
Letting individual database nodes dynamically schedule and orchestrate their own data flows with each other, essentially allowing each node in the parallel system construct its own execution plan in relation to other nodes as it goes along, does not fit within the "giant distributed file system" paradigm that most distributed systems are based on. People who design codes for supercomputers are often familiar with parallel orchestration idioms that work at extremely large scales but it hasn't crossed over into ordinary distributed database engines. (This is also a good litmus test for what makes a database "parallel" as distinct from "distributed".)
Most distributed database architectures are much more centralized than they need to be, particularly around control of execution planning, and this limits their expressiveness. It is quite difficult to hack together a distributed join that performs better than a centralized one without good support for parallel orchestration.