$100K is a lot of money if you're not in the bay area or Seattle. People have such warped perspectives.
https://www.bls.gov/ooh/computer-and-information-technology/...
I am not arguing that this is or isn't a lot of money. For the record, I think that it is a lot of money. It's just not enough money to live OP's lifestyle in the US.
It is disingenuous to equate the two.
Usually 'lifestyle' in the context of affordability is used to describe a set of activities that cost a certain amount. Like eating out, going to the movies, having multiple cars, etc.