Joins were good for the smaller websites, but they don't scale. By avoiding joins, you have shared-nothing models that can be partitioned horizontally aka sharding.
Now true, the latest and greatest databases such as CockroachDB go out of their way to try to do joins for you across partitions, even in an ACID manner, but then you have to use those. Better to avoid joins in the DB and do it in the app. You can then use a graph database instead of a relational database, going from O(log N) lookups to O(1) lookups for related data.
Oh and finally, the newest (and pretty cool) craze of BFT, Byzantine Fault Tolerance. You can't achieve that if you're doing joins across different publishers, because they're not supposed to be able to access each other's stuff "just like that".
Our ORM supports joins, even with multiple indexes, it even lets you define relationships and figures out the joins FOR YOU, but it is discouraged if you're building scalable sites.
By the way thank you for proving point #6 hehe