On this case: coming 5 minutes late (it was tough to find), interviewing for 90 minutes and me being late for a meetup with a friend (I told them that). And I looked like I wasn’t taking care of myself according to him (I was in thesis mode, still am). I feel we have different standards about what it keans to take care of yourself.

The first one I get under certain perspectives but it is only one data point. The second one is my personal life and the interviewer made the assumption it would apply to me professionally. Since he made the assumption in his mind, I couldn’t tell him that this person has been late with me a lot of times and that we are fine with it since we can both multitask and do some work on our laptops at any given moment.