Generally, I'd advice on being so comfortable with yourself that you don't ever feel like you "need" a relationship.
I have been single for about 5 years now. Earlier, I was moving around more looking for better career. Now, I am more stable with a good job. I wanted to say, I want to be in one. Obviously, I don't "need" one just for the sake of having one.
I hear you brother. I haven't cracked this one yet either. I've given up a bit, but I should know better... Nothing is going to change unless I keep putting myself out there.
I feel you and I wish it were easier for my fellow gays who are POC. I hope you get to live in a city, at least.