Step 2: Get your resume on linkedin, ziprecruiter, indeed.com and msg all the tech recruiters you can find on linkedin.
Step 3: Reach out to family if you have any to let you stay with them while you are doing a job search. If not see if a good friend would do that. If not see if you can at least put your wife up with one of her friends so she is safe while you look for a gig.
Also look on craigslist for part time programming jobs. Not great money but it is something. Ask for half up front so you don't get stiffed.
Apply to everything here: https://www.indeed.com/q-Computer-Programming-l-Colorado-job...