I agee with you in many respects:
a) I don't want employees because managing employees is hard and is hard to motivate them.... so what do I do? I want partners in my company that share my motivation that work with me to make good money and good quality of life the (5 person company, mentioned earlier).
b) I've become basically unemployable... I had a company before and the independence and mental freedom it gives is such that working for someone else is very hard. so place with a punch card is out of the question, a place with yearly 360 reviews almost... What is left, small software studios or marketing companies... some of them are very cool. Remember not every company is out of a dilbert cartoon, or an episode from the office. I'd go so far as to say that most small companies aren't like that at all...
3. I'm in the same optimization train as you do... here the first thing to do is to to forget about local optimization (ie small stuff) and focus in the optimization of the whole organization. Read about Theory of Constraints and The Goal (Goldratt) to see why being an optimizer is a great advantage.
4. You claim to be "a very moral person". Ok so here is the thing your work is how you make a positive mark in your fellow human beings. If you refuse to put your talent to work in the service of others you are just being selfish.
5. So go out and do something of service to others. and see if it provides you of the self respect you need, puts food in the table, provides you with the level of independence you desire.