Yep, I was following my now fiancee.
There are a lot of great mid-size cities out there--a hundred of them to choose from--and they're all cheap.
There's this prevailing attitude by city dwellers that living outside of NY, SF, Seattle, or <insert your tech hub here> is death, but that is an attitude borne from a lack of experience about life.
Life is sometimes great in midsize cities, and in many ways they offer more for less.