I use snapchat (and somewhat instagram). That does the trick.
Heck, I'm mostly over social media.
I dont care about the daily activities of my friends, they arent that interesting. Food, work, food, work, food, gym, bar, selfies.
I can google image that crap.
“Hey! I’m throwing a party”... “Oh shit, I need to go out of my way to make sure so-and-so gets an invite”.
Eventually, one of my friends told me “You not being on FB is adding work for the rest of us. Someone always needs to go out of their way to mention everything to you”.
This article sums up a lot of it: https://www.theverge.com/2018/4/28/17293056/facebook-deletef...
For most people I know who aren’t on FB, they either:
- Have a very small, very tight group of friends.
- Have a (usually) wife / roommate to whom they outsource the maintenance of their social calendar
My wife does a bit of the social planning, but the other thing is to invite my friends to things I want via text.
I cannot say I have a small friend group, me and my wife are sort of the hub of many friends.
Snapchat is still pretty good for keeping me connected, checking facebook 1-3 times a month has kept me in the loop for events.