Mutually Nonconsensual Sex
theatlantic.com
theatlantic.com
It was bound to happen. I'm surprised that I've not seen reports before. So obvious.
But it does lead to the problem where two people can simultaneous accuse the other of rape, and the problem of our current systematic response of treating the accused as guilty by default. It is very hard if not impossible to disprove for a school or public a lack of verbal or non-verbal consent. If there is a benefit of being first to report then this kind of situation is bound to recur.
On the positive side I predict we will see more understanding and light for male victims. No more is strength and violence a factor, which has historically been used as an argument why men can't get sexual assaulted. I also predict that the clearing rate will go down in proportionality to the number of reported cases, but will stay rather static in the proportionality to the population.
College students are adults, so the most serious (and possibly violent) sexual offences can be prosecuted according to criminal law, and the rest is just something two adults should be able to figure out by themselves.
Cases like the one described in the article are simply impossible to be correctly assesed by the judge or jury: too little information, and all the reasoning rules that one could apply are subjective and culture-dependent.
American colleges seem more like closed communitys with their own rules. Maybe that‘s because most of the time only exchange students live on campus.
Very soon, joining a amercian fraternity, will be equivalent to joining a monastry. Which means, the political correctness is attacking the universitys where it hurts- attractivenes to party students.
In the left corner, PC-Culture, in the right corner the dean and his accounting.
What a tragedy, what a farce.
There are a small or large number of people seeking to further their own knowledge (depending on which specific university you are attending, it seems), however most university curriculum could be reduced to a year or two of self study. Most of the focus is on the schools perceived performance (as measured by testing, GPA, attendance, etc) My particular University stops giving programming projects after 2nd year for students following the Software Engineering course meaning many students have not programmed in 2 years when they graduate, although from what I hear this is not normal for all schools in my area, however I suspect it is because many students could not handle programming above a 101 level.
This has led to an increase reliance of student groups: those that have a thirst for learning great student groups focusing on self study whether for improving class performance or just learning for the sake of learning. However often times if a group gets too successful the college they are a part of entices them with offers of making their group into an official class for school credit, which transfers control to a professor, again creating the problem where performance is measured by tests, and the cycle repeats when a new wave of students join the college.
I’m super skeptical of this. In any engineering or science field the only thing a diploma gets you is an interview. I don’t consider myself an especially adept interviewer but I think I can tell in the first five minutes if a new grad didn’t learn anything in school.
A website/app where you can quickly declare consent for a specific activity, and share that declaration privately with a specific other user of the app. Each entry is secure/private to only you and the person you share it with. The entries are timestamped, you cannot delete them.
Then before the act, you quickly do a consent exchange and each person has the proof that the other consented.
You could make the entries visible only for a period of time to their own users, after which they are only accessible if there is a legal process, to avoid them being used as trophies/outing.
Obligatory Dave Chapelle Love contracts: http://www.cc.com/video-clips/jwmvxd/chappelle-s-show-love-c...
But such services won't work as consent can be revoked anytime. It doesn't matter if you signed a contract, you can at any point say "No" and the consent is gone.
I have the very unique life style that makes half of my friends also hard core geeks, d&d players, hairy sysadmin, or able to tell which multiverse this particular batman costume is. They are also doubting every of their moves : is it allowed, it it disrespectful, will the other one be offended or hurt ? They really don't have much sexual success.
I love both of my groups, and none in them exhibit any signs they are better or worse persons. But i didn't experience that explicitly asking for consent made things better.
Not being an asshole does, and is pretty much unrelated to sex.
See, we've almost got this built!
Not that I think this tech should exist or be necessary in the first place.
Something we as a society, especially when it comes to tech, need to strive for much more.
During the 90's and 00's, the courts ruled that sexual harassment constitutes an exclusion based on sex, and a failure to address it is a Title IX violation. In 2011, a government agency tasked to enforce civil rights laws published a "Dear Colleagues" letter clarifying what steps are necessary to ensure compliance in sexual harassment cases.
Netflix created something for fun to detect if you are awake or not: http://makeit.netflix.com/projects/socks . I wish someone creates something similar to save people from horrible situations.
And it has been here before, in all shapes and sizes. Its the social skill superiors equivalent of facism.