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The Crisis No One Is Talking About

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15 pointsardent_uno5 comments

This article is pretty bad in my opinion, it’s mostly pushing a book and there’s no suggestion that the statements made are based on legitimate research.

If you really want to address the divorce and lack of male role model issues, a good place to start might be asking why fathers often still do little to no childcare and housework:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2013/jul/05/childca...

Since becoming a parent, I’ve personally been shocked my how little some fathers do (essentially no childcare or housework, maybe working 8 hours a day at their job while stay at home wife works 16 hours caring for kids). Or worse they both work, but father still does no after hours childcare.

What’s more shocking to me is how this is treated as normal by the wider community...

Not disputing there is a disparity there, but can you really simply compare number of hours? If men are outside doing backbreaking work, construction, landscaping, trades, auto mechanic, etc (don’t fool yourself, these jobs are overwhelmingly done by men), is that really a fair comparison? That kind of work just completely drains you. It’s entirely possible that men are doing much harder work in the day and just can’t do the childcare chores. Also men are typically tasked with other types of housework, like lawn mowing, repairs, shoveling snow, cleaning toilets, fixing things, etc.

Again, I’m not saying there’s no disparity, and I’m not saying that some jobs are only for men and some only for women (but there is an undeniable tendency), but there could be many reasons and purely comparing hours does not give you the whole picture.

If mothers have draining jobs, they still tend to the home and their kids after they come home.

The disparity is just as real when there is no backbreaking work involved.

Finally, someone talking about the fact that literally all school shooters are males, and many of them are fatherless or have estranged relationships with their fathers: http://thefederalist.com/2015/07/14/guess-which-mass-murdere...

The books contents sound similar to the one from "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover, a book which has recommended couple of times on HN.

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