There was one motivational type article about how you should “go first” or “be first” when approaching problems in life. Like when making friends or just socially in general. I was looking for it again recently but couldn’t find it.
MIT Math for CS, Matching Problems: https://youtu.be/5RSMLgy06Ew
tldw: it can be mathematically proven that the best strategy is to take the initiative when looking for a partner/job/vacancy, starting with your prefered choice and working down from there, and let others shoot you down if need be