It's so unproductive the way we make "personal responsibility" vs "victimhood" a binary choice. You can either be a conservative, and be disallowed from ever suggesting that something about your circumstances might be the slightest bit unfair, or you can be a liberal, and be disallowed from ever suggesting that anyone should try and take responsibility for their lives.

Everyone should try to be personally responsible to the best of their capacity. And sometimes, systems really are unfair and really need to be changed. It's not just one or the other.

Tribalism applied to worldview is the greatest casualty of the American political sphere.