I see you're also a proponent of the "Dark Forest theory".
If we find aliens it will be more like "Don't let the Great Filter get you and maybe we'll have a really slow conversation."
What threat would we be to them?
To ameliorate that I would suggest reading up on other theories. For example great filter or simulation argument.
A more mundane reason might be that interstellar travel and communication turns out to be impossible (or near enough).