>It only means that’s your chance if you have the technology from quantum leap (the tv show) and you randomly land in the body of one of the participants
No, then the event already happened, so you know the outcome with certainty.
> The actual shuttle missions were not a statistical experiment or a consistent action where you can say “well this is what happened so that was the chance of death on an individual shuttle flight.”
Indeed there are confounding factors that make the error nontrivial. This doesn't invalidate the entire experiment.
>Trying to say “the actual chance of death was this based on how many people died.” is silly.
Its exactly as silly as saying "the actual chance of getting heads is based on how many heads you get". The problem with your argument is that that isn't silly. To calculate how likely getting heads is, you flip the coin a bunch of times, see how many heads you get, and then you have your answer (and a confidence level). Its the opposite of silly.
In other words, there's no big difference between "We'll flip a bunch of coins to see how likely we are to pull heads" and "we'll launch a bunch of people into space to see how likely they are to end up dead". The second isn't as rigorously controlled as the first, but that's fine as long as you account for it.