Is using non standard ports a reasonable approach? On one hand, it's kind of a security-by-obscurity measure, and it's also a (very minor) inconvenience to real users. However if it's not being used in place of other reasonable security measures, I'm not really sure what's bad about it, but it does feel a bit janky to me.
Same goes for other non-public services such as VPN.
What ports should be used? I think clearly you don't want to use other well known services (eg, running ssh on port 25 is just going to fill your logs with failed connection errors). Should you use ports >1024? >10000?