https://learn.adafruit.com/using-an-infrared-library/hardwar...
I do something similar, I have an ESP8266 microcontroller hooked up to an IR sender/receiver that I can use to send and receive codes from Home Assistant to control some stuff. The module I use takes care of encoding and decoding the IR and simply dumps it to serial, which the micro reads and forwards to Home Assistant via MQTT (and vice versa). It's this one
https://www.aliexpress.com/item/5V-IR-Infrared-Remote-Decode...
but it's not hard to do it with a bare IR emitter and receiver. Unfortunately I haven't had have much time lately to document many of my projects for other people, but you can learn a lot from Youtube and Google these days.
I use an ultrasonic sensor to detect when the door is open or closed. It's very reliable.
I even wired up Home Assistant to contact me (over sms by sending an email to my number@carrier) if the door has been open for >5 minutes, because I was precisely in your position of forgetting to close it.
With a little z-wave door sensor (just a magnetic reed switch), you could have Home Assistant run an automation that says "If gate is open at 9:30am, close it." so then you don't even have to log in to click it.
[1] https://partofthething.com/thoughts/adding-a-ir-send-and-rec...
Some have a setting to close a few minutes after being opened. Might be simplest.
I've been wanting to add this to my setup. Do you have any more details on what you have done? My main hurdles would be choosing decent cameras that can be used by Home Assistant... Cameras that don't want to phone home all the damn time.
What camera?! Seriously though, I don't necessarily want to write device drivers for a camera, maybe it's time I start looking at usb webcams to use?
There are also a ton of different 3D-printable mounts and jigs for them on sites like thingiverse and instructables.
My favorite[1] comes as a kit with the jig, 3 servo motors, and an add-on board for a raspi. Using this I have a live-feed camera that can rotate up to 180 degress on 3 axis that I can control from anywhere in the world using my phone as long as my internet connection is up at home. All hosted locally, even the live feed frontend. It's not hard to build or set up either, took me a lazy day and I'm far from a good coder.
1: https://shop.pimoroni.com/collections/raspberry-pi/products/...
I remembered incorrectly, that PiMoroni kit does not include the 3 servo motors, you need to buy those separately along with the RPi camera module. Luckily the servos required are super common little blue servos that are all over eBay and such for dirt cheap.
[1] https://partofthething.com/thoughts/raspberry-pi-home-assist...
[2] https://www.home-assistant.io/components/camera.amcrest/