On 3: How many people must agree in order to change something in Monero such as HF parameters like ringsize? There is not a single company but it looks [to an outsider like me] as a similar position.
I chose Monero too for similar reasons inc ZCash people openly saying they support backdoors for LE [but promising ZCash would never have them]. And taking 20% of block reward and not doing anything useful with it [for millions I expect really polished clients and some quick upgrades].
But the low ringsize is weak [hence going from 3 to 5 to now 7]. All ring members are not equal to n^k is very naive. Fee, ringsize, payment ID, in/out count are all metadata that distinguish on-blockchain. Let alone off-blockchain such as keys being hacked/warranted.
Given this and Monero's lack of disclaimer or warning at all about how to use it safely... a paranoid person might suspect ill-motives. [Consider: MyMonero, the Monero 'lead' Web Wallet, goes out of its way to suggest users use a few higher ringsizes to get better privacy, when we know this makes their TX stand out. This is something that presumably he could change with 1 or 2 lines of code but has not.]