Ask HN: Quit job to avoid burnout?

I have a lot of experience with burnout, and I've formed a pretty strong opinion of it. The risk of burnout has practically unlimited downsides. If you can 'tough it out' then it isn't really burnout. If not, then the upside is limited to collecting another month or two of salary, at ever increasing risk of serious health issues. If you believe you're actually burning out, my advice is to just get out. There are a lot of jobs out there. A lot. No need to make yourself miserable over one job. I don't have a degree either. Also from experience: living on a tight budget is much better than health problems. Living on a tight budget is much better than hating your career.

Woof, that's rough.

RE: Robotics firms - start looking at adjacent industries that value sensors/hardware/computing knowledge - things like IoT, manufacturing, or home automation all seem reasonable side jumps.

RE: Consulting - you have a specialized skill set, so the initial set of jobs may be harder. If you feel you can learn quickly on the fly, it may work out. From the euro comment, you're overseas? I'm unfamiliar with labor law, so I don't know how bad/good consulting is in your area.

I'm open to chatting more if you'd like - email is in my profile. Us robot folk have to stick together.

Thanks for the encouragement. It's a very good idea about IoT companies. I'll definitely give it a shot.

You are right, I'm based in Europe now (moved to Geneva, Switzerland from other EU country).

I'll try to follow up in an email in a couple of days after I digest what others suggested in this thread. Thanks again!

I am working on a medical device with a (simple) robotic arm, most people we have recruited have done low level/middleware development in automotive or aerospace. All these domains are using very similar technologies with very similar hw or timing constraints (not mentioning regulatory). So you could probably also work in these areas too (if you have some inclination to writing specifications for days).

I am only a stranger on the internet, but if I were you I'd leave the toxic environment you're in.

You're 28 years old, burned out and have 6-8 months saved up. I'm 30+ now and live a happy life, but I was severely burnt out between the years 23-26.

It took me those years to get back to my normal self after crashing. I feel like those years are lost for me. I felt numb and didn't care about anything. All because of bad management and me being a constant overachiever. Life is not about working until there's nothing left of you - get out and try not to worry too much. The change will probably be scary but you'll find a new path.

Consulting is highly risky at this point, until you have a couple of clients lined up. The way it's worked for me is that one of my job's partner contacts me on a deal, I do a good job, they recommend me to 5 of their friends (as they know people in the industry), and it snowballs from there.

You just have to get to that sweet spot of meeting the client. Managers are usually smart to put a barrier between the person who does the work and the person who pays for it.

But in your case I would take the risk as your job seems quite dead end.

I told my employer I planned to leave 3 years ago and they were kind enough to let me go part-time. I have a sideline which pays the bills the other two days of the week.

Two thoughts. When you are in a dark place sometimes things are darker than they seem. Is part time an option?

The truth is it’s hard making your own money. I was all set for downing tools but retrospectively this would have been hard financially.

I can also see now some of my stress was expectations I put on myself. If you are more stressed as an employee than your employer there’s something wrong in my book. You sound like a high output person. I now have an attitude of, “you want to pay me for doing stupid things, go ahead”. I chose my battles and don’t get so wound up as much about other’s decisions. Having my own side business helps in this regard as well.

Finally, my stress was stressing my wife. Looking back she had stomach problems which mapped to my unhappiness. A great help for me was taking an hour after work and not bringing all the aggravation home.

Things will get better for you, the transition may just take a little longer than you hope.

From what I've read, I feel like you have the ability to weld considerable power to change your circumstances. You are the most senior engineer at a technical startup. If you leave it could kill the company. At the same time the management might not have the wisdom to see that.

What is making you feel burnt out? Long hours? Management? Long commutes?

How can you mitigate the feeling of burnout in the short term to give you some room to think and plan your next move? Could you take a holiday. Could you work less hours? Could you bring in healthier boundaries with your manager and colleagues.

If you can alleviate the stress in the short-term, it could make it easier to find another job/opportunity.

If you see no way of doing this, then quit. Your health is your most important asset.

Believe in yourself that you can find something and the future is bright. :) You make your own luck and fortune favors the brave.

Thanks a lot for those questions, they are really helpful in self evaluation and deciding on further steps. Sometimes I think I should be more patient but somedays I feel like I should just drop it and hope for the best.

Glad you found them helpful.

I might also suggest meditation and using the Headspace app to get started :) I found doing just 10 minutes a day helped me through a stressful period.

I just started meditating last week, after realizing I'm starting to feel miserable. Did you feel better after first sessions or did it take some time before you saw some changes?

It takes time so keep at it.

It won't necessity solve your problems but you'll be able to better process your feelings.

I found it helped give me more clarity over what I wanted.

Stay strong and find a solution that works for you. We all hate uncertainty but it's a big part of life. Reading Buddhist philosophy helped me realize I'm going to be okay no matter what happens. Even if I lose my job. No matter what happens I can deal with it

If you are thinking of quitting anyway, why don't you take the risk of telling management that you need them to change the way they work with you or you may look elsewhere for work?

If you make some gentle demands and explain the way you're feeling, while offering constructive suggestions, and say it all politely and nicely but with the threat of leaving if things don't improve, then the worst case scenario is they fire you. But you wanted to quit anyway so it's OK. The best case is they change and things improve and you either decide to stay or you have more time to look for another job while it's less mentally taxing.

My 2 cents, do more to try to fix the environment you're in. If you're adding the kind of value it sounds like you are, then you might have more power than you realize. Worst case scenario they push you out, in which case you're in a similar position to just leaving.

6-8 months of savings is okay, but might not be enough especially if you haven't yet gotten traction when applying to new jobs. Burn out is bad, but the desperation that can come from a long job hunt as your savings dwindle can be a different kind of hell.

I'm really trying to make things better however for most of the ideas the reaction I get is "make a proper business case and we will look into it". Sometimes I'm even wondering if I should give up with trying to change things. I just want to do some proper engineering work for a change

as a recent burnout recoveree, it is possible at this point you have already lost a significant portion of your reserves and capacity to recover. You need to make immediate changes which allow you to recover energy. Burnout recovery is painful and you do not come out the same person.

If you are having a hard time sleeping or have unexplainable pains and aches this is your wake up call to act, your body WILL stop you at some point.

I’m in a similar situation and considering quitting. I also have had a mvp built for a saas idea but I don’t know if that can give me financial independence. Maybe 6 months later, after spending too much savings, I will need to look for a new job again.

I’m being approached by a startup also. What they promised (the work I will be doing) seems to be nice. But I am hesitating. Don’t want to be burnt out again.

If you have a partner who offers to support you, there's nothing wrong with accepting that offer. That's the nice thing about having a partner -- you don't need to support yourself 100% of the time -- you can also rely on your partner some of the time.

This is risky, could shift relationship dynamic and add more onto OPs plate.

Life is full of risk. If people stopped doing things because they were risky.... well then nothing would happen. Computers wouldn't exist.....ahhhhh

And there is only the Tao. In other words the 'bad thing' that one is 'at risk of' is a blessing, and it isn't.