It's rather exaggerated, but it's true that men are immediately attracted by looks and women by social status (or promise thereof). And that the craziness factor is a turn off, for both.
It's also true that we tend to judge rather harshly those who don't appear to have an interest that goes beyond these immediate and basic factors.
Yep if you add in what OP left out it sounds less crude.
I don't know if women value social status as much as they did twenty years ago. And men now care more about earning power of their partners.. In tech, I've met a lot of co-workers with husbands in less prestigious jobs.