I feel the Dutch are a lot more casual about it and less grumpy. Germans are direct when unhappy about something ("don't be so loud", "get your feet of the seats"), but are much more likely to stare disapprovingly. Dutch are also more direct when talking about themselves/their feelings - you would never hear a German say "my new haircut looks great"

yeah and the Dutch are over 'the war', whereas I doubt the Germans ever will. Dutch have total apathy for privacy, the Germans however are very conscious about it because of Stasi history.