The Oversimplification of Results and Hard Work
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This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t work hard — you’re essentially playing the lottery otherwise. You also have to decide how much of an asshole you’re willing to be (hate to say it, but if you’re willing to behave without morals, your chances of making money go up in the short term). I’m personally not wired to behave like an asshole, so it’s been hard work and a few lucky breaks that could be parlayed into more opportunities that in turn paid off, sometimes handsomely.
Looking back over 25 years, I can point at exactly where and how I got lucky many times. I needed to be in position to take advantage of those lucky breaks, and I needed to make the most of them (I didn’t always succeed at that!), but some essentially stochastic event has almost always been straight-line connected to an eventual outcome.
There's a paragraph in there dedicated to just that; in that case, the HR person that handled her application was fired / quit and the whole application apparently went down the shitter.
This is the freaking CEO talking. Here's my translation:
"Aish, we want you, but we can't have you because someone quit, and we're too incompetent to follow up."
(although it can't be trivial to fire people in Germany?)
After all, luck favors the privileged.
Anyway, you're right, the privileges we're born into affect a lot of potential success. At the risk of sounding like an asshole, I'm trying to give my children all the advantages I didn't have, and genetically they're picking up the ones I did. They'd better damn well solve hunger or figure out world peace! :)
This has been my pet peeve. Couple of years ago, I interviewed for a job. I had completed over 6 years of IT by that time. The company for some reason was interested in knowing my grades. Because my college gave out CGPA, it was easy to quantify the same. Now they wanted to talk about my performance in high school or my SAT scores.
Now while I got the job. I was peeved about having to answer about my grades obtained 6 years later. The interviewing manager's had a theory - everyone needed to show an "intelligent" spark sometime in their life. He wasn't happy with me because I had been "average" performer all through my studies.
(I first came across the lottery/tickets analogy in mixerman's posts on prosoundweb years ago, always assumed he had coined it but maybe not)
In a perfectly fair world, we would all be born with the same number of lottery tickets, the same equal opportunity. But one of the primary goals of being successful is to be able to ensure better opportunities for our children, in essence giving them lottery tickets.
It's the old "Just World Fallacy" thing, where the thought of randomly getting cancer no matter how "good" you are, while objectively accurate, is hard to cope with, so blaming the people with cancer for their predicament serves as a way to ward off the bad luck and feel in control of your life.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2515569/
Edit: 90% sounded way too high, so I dug up a more recent article on this, which claims it is 50%.
https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/news/hsph-in-the-news/healthy-l...
This is what people mean by intersectionality; despite having "a Masters in Power Engineering with an honors in Digital Technology Management from a very well known German university", being a woman and being an Indian immigrant means that the odds are stacked against her.
For example, many people make generalizations by simply splitting an observation by male and female. Men do this. Women do that.
When in reality it could easily be the case that a woman of x ethnicity observes particular observation in that realm versus a man of y ethnicity.
Or a homosexual man of a visible minority has a much different experience than a heterosexual woman of an ethnic majority.
If you keep flipping a coin, eventually you'll get 3 heads in a row. That particular instance will be luck. But if you don't flip the coin at all, 3 heads in a row will never happen.
"I got the job."
You also completely changed your attitude in the job interview. There are things in my life that I repeatedly and inexplicably (to me) failed at, and when I changed my attitude, suddenly it started working. Was it randomness, or was it my attitude change? Hard to say.
As Seneca supposedly said, "Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity". Sometimes opportunity is shy and you have to look a lot longer than you'd prefer. But I fully believe that if someone keeps at it, they can find their luck.
The hard work idea is another manifestation of the Labor Theory of Value. Working hard at the wrong thing will get one absolutely nowhere. It's really about working smart, not necessarily hard.
So hard work did pay off...
The more emotionally detached i am from an opportunity, the less i am thinking about all the work ive done and the associated emotional/mental stress that surmounted to each moment. As a result i probably appear less desperate, less anxious, more confident, and more easygoing.
I also consider the fact that displaying less emotion is more relatable to men. It's a tough spot to be in, but very interesting to reflect on nonetheless.
The reality is there are always externalities that are not under one's control. That's a given. Being prepared, for the good and the bad, is all we can really do to increase our chances of succeeding.
Obviously you can only have direct impact on some of these, so it's worth concentrating effort there.
[1] "talent" here is somewhat hand-wavy mix of skill and experience
After getting in though, personality and hard work factored more in carrying me through to better opportunities (luck was still involved though).
I suspect your journey will be the same from here on out, and you don’t seem to lack perseverance and personality. So good luck!
Smoking has been overly simplified to “If you smoke hard, you will achieve cancer.” But I've been smoking hard for 20 years and no cancer yet! My grandfather smoked his lungs till he was 82 and never had any cancer either. Whenever I hear that smoking kills I get triggered!
This is probably going to controversial, but her core problem seems to be an insufficiently high g-factor. She could have contributed to a prominent open source project like the Linux kernel or the C++ compiler. The only barriers to entry are technical competency and ability to focus.
__Hard work has been overly simplified to “If you work hard, you will achieve your dreams.”__
This is true assuming your dreams are calibrated to your capabilities. I presume the problem was her map was not in sync with the territory. Elon Musk can dream about going to Mars. I can't because I simply lack the willpower/drive/intelligence to achieve that.
We need to stop perpetuating the egalitarian fantasy. All men are not created equal.
Really?
The central point I was trying to make was that hard work pays off, if you are smart enough.
For example, Jeff Dean currently heads Google Brain despite having not having a PhD in machine learning (his PhD was on whole program optimization of object oriented languages). Or John Carmack starting Armadillo Aerospace would be another example.
I expect to be downvoted again, but I stand by what I said.