Who Thought Cat Cafes Were a Good Idea?
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It's amazing how many people don't know that rule #1 for a cat is: let the cat be a cat, if she wants to interact with you she will come to you and ask.
Even more amazing is many people don't know that this is also valid for dogs - no, you should not complain that a dog in a subway nearly bit your hand off, when you simply go to the dog and pet it without asking the owner if the dog actually likes being touched by random people and don't first hold your hand in front of the dog's nose so he can sniff it before touching the back of his head from behind. That often enough the dog pays with his life for your inability to respect boundaries is horrible.
Then again, people generally don't respect the personal boundaries of anyone they deem "incapable" of having boundaries, including kids ("give stinky aunt a kiss"), women or old people... so it doesn't surprise me...
> It seems obvious that the more respect you show an animal in this situation, the better.
It depends. Some animals behave better when it's clear to them that a) they're not the alpha and b) the alpha has everything under control.
The core point is: move slowly. Hectic movements will induce stress in any animal. Give it time to react to your presence and try to look at the body language (especially if it tries to back away from you or growls/hisses at you)... how often people fail to respect a hiss, it's unbelievable.
Crouching down to its height could expose you to worse injury as you are now putting your face and throat much closer to the animal.
These are the instructions I give my children, who love animals and are used to dogs and want to pet every dog they see.
Cats don't appear to have a good serial memory, so they can remember places and times up to a point, but not quite well enough to integrate them into a conceptual whole.
One cat was cute and sweet tempered, but also timid and really rather slow. We eventually worked out that she couldn't make the connection between the corridor that led to the kitchen in daylight, and the same corridor after dark.
She acted as if they were two completely different and unrelated spaces. So she had to timidly re-explore both every day, which caused non-trivial confusion because some of the things in the corridor already had her scent on them.
With cats on the other hand domestication is like a room you rent out at a house when you're college. The people there might be cool - the rent is so low it might as well be free and most of the time they don't care if you steal their food. In the back of the cat's head (and I think this is true for the most pampered domesticated cat in the world) is the knowledge that it's a place to crash and if things get too weird they can always bail out.
From that point of view I tend to give cats a lot more leeway. I mean a cat doesn't really have to pop over onto my lap and let me scratch it's head. It's the one putting itself out there in a reasonably genuine way.
Dogs though I'm always a bit suspicious of because popping over to have their had scratched? That's their job. Maybe they like me but it's like when you go to McDonald's and the person behind the counter smiles and asks you if you want fries with that as if you're the best person in the world.
For example, I had been told as a child that humans were the only animals that killed for sport. Yeah right. You don't have to spend decades with chimps to know that's a load of hogwash. And why kill straightaway when you can do a little light torturing first?
Evil little buggers. It occurred to me once that James Bond may have got it horribly wrong. Blofeld was being stroked by his pet not the other way around.
And I say that as someone who likes cats.
I'd rather pet somebody elses dog and have a cat for myself.
One thing I will say from an entrepreneurial standpoint, is that is was soon OBVIOUS that people loved the the idea and there was (some) demand.
I generally doubt that products market themselves & am skeptical of organic growth stories. But this was a case that showed me there can be big positive demand signals.
Anyway if animals are used in therapy why that wouldn't work in other environment.
Thank you for your summary and likely inadvertent cat themed pun. ;-)