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Hypergamy, then, is ever present. The only thing that changes whether it is realized or not is the extent to which women are free to act on it. Hypergamy doesn’t necessarily guarantee an inequality in actual sexual encounters, but the more free that women are to act on it (and this is personal speculation) the more likely are there to be social norms and institutions favoring women, i.e. fault-free divorce, preferential child custody laws, anti-slut shaming, popularity on social media, and the free trips to Dubai that entails, etc.

I need to report 'reality' to the mods for gender baiting.

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I've never heard of "hypergamy" until today.

We (women) aren't a homogeneous group. Sure there are some psychopaths, but there are male psychopaths too.

I don't think "all men are rapists". I don't think most women are going on free trips to dubai or partying with silicon valley elites. Its a small percentage of people who live that type of life.

America is full of decent hardworking women and men. You just won't find them on the tv due to the entertainment cycle.

Sometimes I think the media is warping and twisting people opinions, you meet a lot of decent hardworking people in real life.

Could you explain the leap from hypergamy to a female dominated society? If women seek out socially "superior" men, one would think that men would hold much of the power in society.

Divorce and child custody laws aren't preferential by intent. They're simply archaic and/or very sticky. While I'm very much in favor of men's domestic rights, there are a lot of minefields when it comes to these issues which is I believe why a lot of the inequalities haven't been remedied.

Slut shaming is a bad thing for men. Men, especially men of lower social status (or "attractiveness"), benefit from a glut of promiscuous women. Also, prostitution is a market like any other. It's not women's fault that there is a high demand.

It's easy to get angry about things like this, and while you should strive for positive change (e.g. healthier self-image for women, regardless of sexual appetite), you should also act based on the reality of today where necessary.

>Men, especially men of lower social status (or "attractiveness"), benefit from a glut of promiscuous women.

They don't because promiscuous women will continue to choose high status partners. More sex doesn't mean more sex for low status men.

I think if you close your eyes and think about it you can recall lots of counterexamples.

I don't subscribe to the philosophy that I think underlies this article but I can see that from their perspective slut shaming has advantages.

If you assume that society accepting more sex leads mostly to more sex and sexual partners for the 20%, and not the 80%, and a delay to "settling", then tolerance of lots of sex outside of marriage, from the perspective of the 80% means that instead of the twenty year old settling with you at twenty, you're in a sexual desert until at 40 she couldn't snag any of the presumably many members of the 20% who she slept with whilst auditioning and then settles with you.

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