> One web request should not be served by one process at a time
It's doesn't have to be. You can use asyncio and deal with many requests at a time by one process.
> I love python, but it is not suitable for backend work at scale.
What's at scale ?
Most projects I work on IRL, including in banks and administrations, never reach the level of scale this even remotely a problem. Too many people think they are Google.