I feel like somehow, we are way off in our understanding of the universe and how it works. There are so many unanswered questions, such as:
1) If the big bang created space and time as we know it, what was there before that?
2) Why did the big bang suddenly occur 14 billion or so years ago? Why not a couple billion years before or after that?
I know that the steady state theory of the universe has fallen out of favor, but I wonder if some appeal could be made to some kind of fundamental force that has always existed and always will, which behaves with fluid dynamics, and the "islands" of matter that we experience are actually some kind of fluctuations in that fluid.
2) We should expect to find ourselves in a time and place that accommodates observers, see o https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anthropic_principle
And the other big point is that our concept of time might be flawed. Maybe in relativistic terms, from our point of view it was a few seconds, but it actually took an eternity and you could keep observing closer and closer to the origin (in the diagrammatic sense) but never reach it, so who even cares, still? So, in a way more easily grasped by humans, it would be more apt to say, there is no after, because we will possibly never get behind it in our way forward. Does that seem sensible to you?
2) Because that's when the size of the universe in the calculation reaches plank scale? I'd like some correction because I have read before that plank scale is not actually a hard physical boundary, but I believe we just don't have the tools to say anything about that time with any certainty. And don't be mistaken, there are loads of competing theories and all have warts, paradoxes and open questions. Such is life, ironically, which I still think is a comfortable closure.