It is not a kid, it is relationship bomb. Focus on the relationship.
(I heard it in some random YouTube video once, which just goes to show that good advice can be found in strange places)
(I heard it in some random YouTube video once, which just goes to show that good advice can be found in strange places)
A few thoughts:
(a) Schedule is key. Put the little buggers on a schedule and keep to it.
(b) The parent's bed is sacred, no child shall pass. We were very strict with this rule. Our kids have never been in our bed to sleep.
(c) Free time is key, one of the best things we did was get a nanny/house keeper on Saturday. That way we can leave the kids at home and go have a nice lunch together and maybe see a movie without the hassle of babysitters and late nights.
(d) Start waking up early, way early. Nearly 4 years into fatherhood I am still searching for the ways to attain my lost productivity. One of the biggest has been to simply wake up earlier. Kids bring about a new world order. Accept and move on and embrace the 4:30 wakeup.
Don't have kids, no "hassle"!
As for (d) kids are your productivity, they're are what you've produced, they will be your lifes work. Don't sideline them, don't let nannies have all the fun.
I let a 7yo I'd never met take my 16mo old off to the playpark today .. I did watch from less than 50m away though, perhaps I'm holding the reins too tight?