Why OkCupid is changing how you message
theblog.okcupid.com
theblog.okcupid.com
Then, two short subheads later, we have:
"That’s because first messages now only appear to the recipient."
Even they don't understand their own new monstrosity. It's like the worst features of OKC and POF rolled into one.
And don't even get me started on the obscene number of trackers[1] in their app now.