My counter argument is I’ve tried to take this advice multiple times in my life and each time came to the (re)conclusion that I will never be able to think of it as anything but lying and manufactured conflict. Some of us just don’t have brains that allow for that kind of thinking, at least not without severe anxiety and discomfort.

I can’t sell. I’ll never be able to sell. I think that makes me feel like a more honest person. I’m okay with that trade off.