I don't see how this problem can be solved in the short-run with anything other than money. Just buy out the entire neighborhood, raze all the houses, put up huge complexes and bake in the price of the beforementioned behavior into the new rent.

Doing this a house at a time is a fruitless effort. The neighbors will crush you -- rightfully so (why shouldn't the people who own propery have a say?). It sucks, but it seems like that's how it is.

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The only interesting thing here is that people are so fixated on just a few spots in this country. You'd think the natural conclusion of this would be employers going to the cheaper areas and this problem would solve itself.