I've given what data that I have easy access to (from a single threaded asynchronous home brewn server that sees an awful lot of traffic) in that other thread. Now that's a special enough case that I think that the conditions under which normal servers operate will be skewed considerably in the
downward direction compared to that one and even there I never observed an active-to-total ratio of more than 40% over a span of 5 minutes during a 2 hour run.
Instrumenting varnish or apache would be a lot harder to do because I don't know those code bases well enough to know for sure that I'm doing it just right so all I can rely on there is the data reported by the 'status' modules of those programs, and for now neither of those suggest otherwise.
Zed attacks that data with a bunch of handwaving but to date has yet to show a single instance of a server which actually has an active-to-total ratio that is higher than 60%. I suspect such servers do exist, media servers, file servers and other other servers with relatively few connections, a large worker pool compared to the number of active connections and lots of long files being shipped across those connections.
But your typical web server is more likely to be stuck in an endless cycle of accept-read-write-close where both the 'read' and the 'write' can block for significant amounts of time compared to the number of bits shipped, and the backend can do the same thing once more. So idle is the norm.